Thursday, 17 June 2010
I had a puny fight with ahBlack yesterday.
80% of the fights are usually initiated by tone of words/speech and the remaining 20% are usually by what the reader interpreted or misinterpreted. I don’t deny that I was a tad grouchy yesterday and his insensitive remarks just didn’t come at the right time.
I told him directly that he was being irritating and he continued being so. Almost wanted to go up one level (we are working in the same building) and knock his head. I feel that one should look at the objective of the sentence and not 断章取义 + 扭曲 what one has said. 先入为主 sucks too. Instead of getting the full picture first, people these days just love to judge by the cover huh? Just like a handful of Stompers I saw on Stomp recently.
Example:
Picture = A pregnant lady standing by the door and stomper claimed that inconsiderate teenagers didn’t give up seat.
Facts: Teenagers did offer the seat but pregnant lady declined because her destination was only 2 stations away. Stomper saw and ASSUMED the teenagers were inconsiderate hence the post on Stomp. Other Stompers saw the picture and began a series of beating + cursing session on the teens.
Seriously aren’t these people one-dimensional? We are mostly EDUCATED, but morally wise, we suck big time.
Anyway, I was glad that being adults and close friends, we ironed it out and apologized to each other. He apologized for his insensitive remarks and I was sorry for being too harsh in my reply to him. Thereafter, he posted this on his FB: “Accept, Forgive and Forget”. I like SAM’s reply; you forgive but never forget.
Forget means to forget the incident.
Never forget means not to forget the lesson learned. This is the example he gave:
You put your hand into a dog’s mouth and the dog bites. After the incident, you accept that it had happened and forgive the dog; you forget the negative incident but never forget the lesson learned. That is, never put your hand into the dog’s mouth again.
Every ugly incident makes us wiser through the reflection on past encountered experience. It is always the Reflection that is the teacher; not the Experience itself.
One can experience it, but can never learn from it by one’s impaired reflection.
Composed at 11:07 am |
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