Monday, 2 March 2009
From the olden times, lovemaking is a very sacred thing between Married couples but a very unclean thing between Singles. Do you recall the phrase “进猪笼” from Chinese TV dramas? Haha!
I remember a teacher once told us that Virginity is something we have to protect and not lose it during dating times because it should be saved for our beloved one on the wedding night for consummation. He gave an analogy citing that we would all love to receive a present which is BRAND NEW and untouched because nobody will like a used present.
So your future husband/wife is a gift from God to you and your virginity is a present to him/her (same thing goes to the other party who is marrying you). Erm, sounds logical???
I have a different opinion against this conventional thinking and I think it is BULLSHIT loh.
“我反对婚前性行为!” Fark this sentence la…. I feel that it is OK for 婚前性行为 between ADULTS as long as protection measures are used. During dating times, you hold hands, you kiss and you hug. You feel that the both of you are so compatible in terms of personality and tempers but how about the compatibility in bed?
For the first timers, although the guys might (I use the word ‘might’ and not ‘must’ because I give the minority of guys the benefit of doubt that they have never done it before) have watched pornography before and has a rough idea of how to go about doing ‘it’ during the first time hence being able to ‘guide’ the wife, but imagine the furthest the couple has gone through during dating time was only kissing, wouldn’t they feel nervous and the atmosphere being tense during consummation??? Hmmm… *putting myself in the shoe* it might be so awkward for me although I have been looking forward to the wedding night for him to untie the ribbon on me and devour me! Wahahaha. Exciting man! Anyway, it is supposed to be a special night isn’t it?
But I will enjoy the night even more if I have done it with my partner before because we will more or less know what to expect from each other in bed minimizing the cause for disappointment unless he puke in the bed from the drinking during the banquet la. Then i will smack him right in the head!
How do you decide if the both of you are sexually compatible? Because he/she is the one you love? Or sex is not a vital point in marriage? I just realize that there are woman who has been in a few years marriage but has NEVER experience orgasm. Sad. Is making love just a process to make babies with the mentality of getting it over and done with? NO LOH! Making love is a session to bond your love and not solely for the purpose of making baby. It is a GOOOOOD exercise!
When you buy laptop or television, you will try it at the store first before you decide if you want to make the purchase tio bo? Same thing; Dating time = trial period. If ok den move on with marriage, but you tried ‘everything’ except for the sex part, what if you didn’t feel good in bed after tying the knot? Then that’s it liao, you either commit adultery (that’s when you think you found someone who is compatible in all aspect) which is the BIGGEST taboo in a marriage or you go Geylang catch chicken to satisfy your fantasy jeopardizing your marriage. Ah boh… you LUN (hokkien) loh. For the laptop/television, at least you still have warranty leh. Can make one-to-one exchange. Hee hee.
In summary and in my honest opinion, it is not a bad thing to engage in a sexually active relationship before marriage. At least you get to explore every aspect of your partner before confirming that he/she is the right one! Then again, everything is subjected to changes, he/she maybe the right one for now but not for ever. Marriage doesn’t guarantee that your partner will never change or change for the better. Signing the paper is just embossing an invisible tattoo on your partner indicating: YOU ARE MINE and let’s start saving up for the HDB loan and kids.
Composed at 11:18 am |
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