Saturday, 27 October 2007
Finally my turn to get defeated by the flu virus spreading around in office...
Down with flu + cough + fever... Doc says its a package.. zzz.. Prescribed drowsy pills and cough syrup to shorten my recovery period.. Slept through out the day and night for 2 days before heading back to work this morning..
Feeling lazy and unmotivated(due to the absence of 2managers who are on business trip), i surfed the forum for interesting topics to cure my boredom.
Read through one topic which had a short debate on why people must set certain targets to achieve in life. Targets like, getting married by bla bla bla age, getting a bf of at least how many years older or only marry to someone who earn X amount of income. I think these 'targets' are super redundant. Do you mean you determine your lifetime partner by age, income, appearance or his/her etiquette? One lady remarked that she is approaching 29 yrs and is around the corner of the age she wants herself to get married by then. The reason why she is in the forum is because she is complaining about her husbad-to-be's stingy habit of spending money on her. To the extend that he blames her on the increase in comsumption of petrol, summon tickets and carpark fees while looking for their ideal bridal packages and hotel banquet venue. Hello... what kinda man is this? He reprimands her when she swipe her supp card given by him to do a mani + pedicure on the eve of their photo shoot day... If he can lose a few thousands accumulating to tens of thousand on stocks, why cant he 'see open' a bit to this puny amount his future wife incurred. She replies she will stick to him despite of all this... more of complains and grumbles are listed in the thread itself which i am not diligent enough to type it out here...
Just because she is afraid she might not be able to find someone better to marry her and she wants to marry at her ideal age, means she can simply grab any man who wants her and lower her head to those verbal abuse and not gaining her rightful respect as a future wife???! Will this marriage end up in another divorce in the later part?
Another thread, asking people to share whats the age gap between their partners..
Replies differ from a few yrs to 20yrs of age gap. So? If both can click, regardless of what fcking age gap why cannot be together har?? I just dont understand why some people can only stick to those INVISIBLE RULES stating that, a perfect couple will only get blessing from the others if they are only of a FEW years apart, age gap up to as much as 8, 10 or 20yrs are deem as a WRONG match! People who are already attached means you cannot have any ideas of being together with him or her?? If this couple is already together, and this guy comes along and is attracted to the lady, normal thought; ahh, she is attached with bf already, i muz give up this thought. What if the lady and the guy gets to know each other at a later part and realise they click very well and realise they actually have feeling for one another? If she dumps the bf for this guy, many will shun them and spit at them instead of giving any blessing. Are these people in the shoes of the new couple? Do these people actually understand what kind of love has developed between them and how the love has faded in the past relationship? They know nuts, but they can gossip and finger point at the new couple as much as they want. Why? Because it is WRONG due to the concept of people who follows rules blindly taught to them from young. White is white, black is black, there is no grey line! In the eyes of love, no rights or wrong to me.
As long as you're happy together, i give my blessing. If cracks appears somewhere along the relationship, please think back on both of you got together, enjoyed the passion of love and the days of courtship. Nobody is always right or wrong, but we always think we're in the right and pushes all blame to the other party so naturally. After we calmed down, though things over and thoroughly, we realised we are actually at fault too.
Am learning to control my emotions and any out-burst of anger. I calm myself down, think through if what i am going to do is what i will not regret, comtemplated the outcome and i am glad i did not do what i had wanted to.
Composed at 1:58 am |
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Friday, 5 October 2007
There is this lady who is consistently giving insensitive remarks and lame suggestions that will definitely backfire in other's relationship. She continues to brag about how rich she is, how generous her hubby is in buying her gifts and acting smart in Diamonds.. zzz...
The threadstarter in the forum is already facing a problem with her egoistic hubby who pushes the blame of accumulating debts to his wife who merely spent $120 on a mani and pedicure for their ROM (and he actually demanded her to return him the supp card). Long long story and post in this particular thread. Then, this guy posted this...
Hi Julia, Would you like to meet up with me sometime? Don't get any funny idea ok, I got this wonderful book on improving one's EQ that I thought would be suitable for you. I can lend it to you if you want. You can get your hb to read it as well, since he came up with the brilliant idea of maxing out the credit limit of that nimcompoop hubby of blue pooh...Oh, the absolute brilliance of that hubby of yours... But hor, I might be a bit late in meeting up with you...let me explain, cos hor, when I go to my underground garage, I have to choose among the fleet of cars that I have to drive out...you know lah, Ferraris, Lambos, Porsches, Maseratis...after I choose the model of the cars, I still need to find a color of the car that match my expensive Hugo Boss suit (I wear suit all the time, even when I sleep)...then after that I have to drive at least 15 minutes on the driveway linking my sprawling mansion out to the main road...sometimes when I get lost on the way out of my mansion (it happens, place too big), I even have to call my butler, who then calls his assistant...who then calls the ex-SAS security guards to come find me and lead me out of my home....when I'm finally out of my home *whew*...I have to wait (again!) for the TP to clear the road for me all the way to my destination... Only then can I pass you the book...so be patient ok, while I find my way out... And oh, did I tell you about my diamond-encrusted handkerchief...sure, it hurts when I wipe my face with it, but hey, it's diamonds you know! But me being a hygiene freak, I throw away the handkerchief each time I used it... Hang on, come to think of it, maybe I still need the book...oh bugger, I'll pass it to you another day then... *wipes face with hanky...* Ouch! *throws away hanky in my LV garbage bin*
Kudos to him man.. haha! this is a very good one.
Composed at 11:16 am |
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Thursday, 4 October 2007
http://confinedfreedom.blogspot.com/2007/10/if-only-i-could-turn-back-time.html#linksStumbled upon this blog and i kept pondering over her predicament. How 'if only' are there in our life. each and every day that passes, out of how many % is the time spent doing something that we will never regret. I regretted not answering the call from dad in the middle of the time to ask me go see 'ah ma' for the last time in hospital. I slept till noon the next day, then i decided to return dad's call and realised 'ah ma' had left us. This was already 3years ago, but the image is still kept vividly in my mind. I come to realise i actually love her a lot and tears just rolled down my cheek effortlessly during the funeral wake. I regretted not giving her a kiss everytime we bided goodbye, but luckily i did go visit her when she was hospitalized. This is something i am glad i did not put off as always (ai ya, tomorrow i will go and tomorrow never ends).
Am learning to treasure now, the present and all the people around me....
Composed at 2:26 pm |
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